It’s Time for the Holidays-and Boundaries

12 years ago

I have a friend whose nickname for her former husband is Toxic Tom. He was just one of those people…

Crazy-Making: How to Cope with Gaslighting

12 years ago

If you’ve been a victim of crazy-making, you need a good coping strategy. The problem is, it’s hard to identify gaslighting—the…

Crazy-Making: The Three Stages of Gaslighting

12 years ago

A few weeks back we talked about gaslighting, the term for mental abuse that makes you doubt your own reality.…

The Story of Passive-Aggressive Harvey and Paige

12 years ago

Harvey’s Childhood: Harvey grew up in a family where children were considered a nuisance. Harvey’s mother insisted that children should be…

Do You Have What It Takes to Be a Good Friend?

12 years ago

The Lone Ranger and Tonto. Thelma and Louise. Bud Abbott and Lou Costello. Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. What…

Crazy-Making: Are You a Victim of Gaslighting?

12 years ago

Gaslighting is a colorful name for insidious mental abuse. It is perpetrated on victims with the deliberate attempt to make…

A Little Porn Never Hurt Anything, Right?

12 years ago

Roger was happily committed to a relationship with Fran. Every now and again he’d visit a porn site on the Internet.…

Are You Contemptuous? It’s a Sure Relationship Killer.

12 years ago

The trouble with being contemptuous is that it implies you feel far superior to the worthless dung heap you are…

Six Ways to Be a Good Partner

12 years ago

When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to take your partner for granted. Especially if you’re busy at work, or…

Are You a Good Partner?

12 years ago

If you are a good breadwinner, a good planner, a good cook—whatever your role in your relationship is—it doesn’t necessarily…