When I meet with a new couple, I always ask: How do you self-soothe during and outside ofconflict? While some report having…
You may not know its name, but you’ve probably experienced diffuse physiological arousal (DPA). It’s that feeling you get when…
Overcontrol, defined as excessive or maladaptive self control, can lead to significant problems in our relationships. People with overcontrolled traits…
The trouble with the term “narcissist” is that it is used liberally, when a very small percentage of the population…
As a therapist, as well as someone who goes to therapy, I can speak firsthand about the importance of attending…
Multiple studies have been conducted exploring the idea that two people can develop a close relationship by sharing their most…
The trauma of being unseen often lies at the root of both shame and codependency, quietly shaping how we relate…
Sex is often the cornerstone of a good relationship. Sure, it’s possible to have a wonderful relationship without it, but…
Understanding "Bids" in Relationships Dr. John Gottman, a leading relationship researcher, introduced the concept of bids — small, everyday attempts…
The Trifecta of Tortured Relationships: Why You Feel So Alone Together When couples first come together, it feels like magic.…